Affability: be the change you want to see; see the person’s dignity; be accepting; don’t objectify the other; be genuine, grounded, nonjudgmental.
Availability: welcoming; hospitality; listening; being present to the other; obstacles and influences—cell phones, US culture, fear, family history.
Adaptability: enculturation; bringing our values and sharing their values; attending to, welcoming, and incorporating diversity; humility; curiosity; what you do with your experiences; continuing to learn and grow; bringing change means accepting change!
Saturday afternoon was for meditation and reading; Sunday began with reflection and prayers for people who were being challenged with personal issues.
Then we considered Pope Francis’s list of illnesses and temptations that weaken our service to God, including:
- considering oneself “indispensable”
- “Martha-ism” or excessive industriousness
- mental and spiritual hardening: not being able to weep with those who weep and to rejoice with those who rejoice
- excessive planning and functionalism
- not working with a spirit of communion
- existential schizophrenia: teaching severity to others and living a hidden dissolute life
- rivalry and vainglory living
- deifying leaders; chatter, grumbling, and gossip
- indifference towards others; the “funereal face”
- accumulation, i.e., material goods
- worldly profit and exhibitionism
These ailments generated a wide discussion and a sharing of personal experiences that reinforced the need to keep the three A’s of Maryknoll Spirituality front and center in our daily lives.